My sister has been hooked on crack for 10 years. I am raising her son. She is 30 and has never had a job or been responsible for anything in her life. When my mom died a few years ago, her will said that whatever money my sister received from her life insurance should be held in my trust. That money has run out and now my sister is receiving settlement money from the lawsuit over my mom's death. (mesothelioma) This money legally doesn't have to be held in my trust. It could go straight to my sister but she agreed that because of her drug issue, my brother and I could hold on to it for her so she doesn't go blow it. There is about 75 thousand dollars total. Well, a year has passed and my brother and I are fed up being responsible for this money. She is constantly calling asking for more money, even though we agreed on a set budget. Obviously she is going and blowing this money on crack. We don't usually tell her no because legally, it is her money to do with what she wants. But we are so sick of the lies and deceit and the constant calls. And we are scared that drug dealers will show up at our house because she has told them we have all this money for her but won't give it to her.
If this were your sibling, or your adult child, would you just give them the whole 75 thousand and let them go blow it on crack?. Even though you know there is a good likelihood it would cause her to overdose and die? Or would you just keep answering the phone calls and give it to her a little bit at a time so she will be less likely to be able to go on a massive binge that will kill her?
My brother and I are so sick of all of this but at the same time, we don't want to live with the guilt of knowing that she died because we gave her all that money at once.
And she absolutely refuses long term rehab. She went a couple of times to 30 day programs, but she left to smoke crack within a week of getting out.
Is there anyway to get legal control of her money because of her addiction?
Thanks for your help.

My dad suffers from a malignant type cancer (mesothelioma), and he is on chemotherapy. It seems that everyday he becomes more angry and more agressive towards everybody. Is this due to his cancer or chemo? My mom and I are deeply saddened by his condition, but everyday he screams and yells at us for no reason. Is there something else that we can do to help him? I feel even more sorry for my mom because she is the one who receives the most insults by my dad. I see her cry everyday because of that. What can we do?

Hello !
I am in a bind and am coming to all of you for some great advice.
In the early stages of my relationship with my FH, his mother sat down with me and told me that she would be honored to make my Wedding dress.
In late October, my FH broke the news to his Mom that we plan to be wed in March 2007. He asked her not to make a big production of it because we would like a small, intimate wedding.
In mid November, her father (my FH's grandfather) was diagnosed with stage 4 mesothelioma. I'm sad to say that he passed away a week ago.
Mind you, because of the sensitivity of the matter, I have refrained from talking to her about wedding plans and whatnot.
I might also want to add that she is currently living in Bahrain (an island off of Saudi Arabia).
She is in the states now visiting us and doing Christmas in Disney. I think she's trying to occupy herself so as she is not reminded that she just lost her father.

I hope I gave enough info in the above to help you help me.
Here is the question:

I am perfectly fine with purchasing a dress. Matter of fact, I've had my eye on a particular one for a few months now. BUT, I do not want to take the opportunity of her making my wedding dress away from her. I also want her to know that I am okay if she decides not to make me one, so she is not pressured, ya know? How do I bring this up? When?
My FH seems to think that I should wait until she goes back home (to Bahrain) after New Years. I'm afraid if I wait until she is back there, if she decides she still wants to make this dress for me, she will run into difficulty getting my measurements and yaddy yaddy. But, I'm afraid to ask her while she is here and risk sounding like a selfish, inconsiderate Bride to be.

Thanks for taking the time to read through this, and all advice is welcome.

I'm asking this because in 2003, my dad died of lung cancer. He was an insulator and was exposed to asbestos for many years without knowing. We are still in the middle of a lawsuit and next month we have to go to court for something called Work-mans Comp. Some of the people my dad worked with are lying and won't admit that they too worked with asbestos at the time my dad did. They are afraid they'll lose their job because some of the men are still working for the company, so they are going to lie on the stand, even though one of the guys was the best man at my parents wedding. They are going to say he died because he was a smoker. The thing is, even though he was, the specialist who reviewed my dads Autopsy report said that the asbestos had something to do with it whether he was a smoker or not.

My mom is now older than my dad was when he died (he was 45) and she is still alive and she's a smoker, and so are many other of his friends who are his age and smoke. I was just wondering what age people usually die of lung cancer due to smoking? I think it could help with the case, but I'm not really sure. I'm just looking for all the answers I can get so I can kind of see if we have a good chance or not. We've been waiting five years for this to go through and we've been struggling to get by, especially with this economy. I would rather have my dad back, but he wanted this for us because he couldn't be here to support us. He wouldn't want my mom to struggle like she has. We are about to lose our house, so if we win, everything would be okay. I need advice or someone elses opinion on what might happen.

Thanks in advance

-Tammy
The lawsuit is separate from the Work-mans comp, sorry if I made it sound like it was just one thing. What I'm basically worried about is the Work-mans comp. I just wanted to clear that up, sorry.

im a 15 year old boy a few moths ago my mom died of cancer known as Mesothelioma an incurable cancer it was horrible as friends and family watched as she died in her sleep. and although i had other plans for my future i want help becoming a doctor and to cure cancer from this world and rid it from life i was hoping someone could help me find a way to do this. to help me make steps to becoming a doctor and getting involved.

My husband, myself, and our 3 sons, 7 and below have been living in an apt. owned by my hubbys g-parents. Recently we were evicted by my in-laws (my hubbys dad) and told we had 10 days to pack & move back in w/ them (5 people in an 8'X10' room w/ no window!) I am fr. a state in mid-west & after I lost my dad @ 22, 5 yrs. ago, i have been especially scared of losing my g-ma (my dads mom- the closest person in my entire life to me- & also my hero) who we found out on Valentine's Day this yr. she has mesothelioma. They were to remove her lung but top dr. in SF said she won;t be able to survive that- so he said to be comfy, go home, and enjoy her last 2-6 months. so when we got evicted recently I told his p's i was 2 leave n-e-ways- cuz i feel STRONGLY i need 2 be there since I was sposed to go 4 a visit 3 wk. after my dads death- i can't have this loss/ guilt too- my mind can't cope! In-laws were 2 $ but now they want us 2 wait a few months- that we don;t have- so i need job/$ QUICK-

My mom died of mesothelioma, which is the asbestos cancer, last year. We have no idea where she was exosed so I am trying to learn as much as I can about the places she lived. She lived at Carswell in the fifties. I would like to know if anybody knows anything about Carswell, or the area surrounding it. If there are any factories around that area, or how far away it is from the Summit and 5th streets (because 19 mesothelioma cases were diagnosed in that area).

Just any info you have would be helpful. Thanks so much!

My mom died in December '06. We don't know where she was ever exposed to asbestos. Do you know where your mother was exposed?

My mom smoked, drank, ate a horrible diet of fast food, and sweets. She volunteered in her community. She raised 2 kids. Had 11 siblings. She died of ovarian cancer, because it was hereditary. Not because of her diet choices, or other bad habits/behaviors. Health counselling for these behaviors would not have helped her. My biological father did not smoke, did not drink, raised his other kids, not me. He served his country. He worked hard, and cared about his kids. He died from cancer, from exposure to asbestos. Health counselling would have done him no good in his behaviors. My question is, why do you choose to be miserable, eating and doing things you wouldn't normally, to HOPEfully maintain good health, when you don't know what you will die from, that had nothing to do with what you eat, or how you exercise? What do healthy people die from? Thankfully, my cousins and aunts can have hysterectomys, or at least monitor their bodies accordingly. My parents should be here.

My mom moved into a 100 year old home whenever I was five. Without knowing Asbestos even existed she sanded ALL of our wood floors, but my mom, sister and I stayed at her boyfriends house for three days. Is that enough exposure to asbestus to give me or my family lung cancer in 15-40 years? Because if so I might be dead by the time I'm 19...is there ANY way to stop it before it gives us cancer? My mom also recently tore down a wall (really dumb idea) and I told her to get someone to clean it up but she's denying that she even has asbestos! She said someone took the walls away but all she did was mop up the area and open the windows. I'm at my dads right now and I don't want to go back to my moms if I'm gonna get even MORE exposed...ahhh i dunno what to do!